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Sex Scandals Roam Schools

 

When I was young I remember having a crush on a teacher. Though male was few and far in between, these crushes was harmless and ineffective. Like he didn’t confess his love for me in later years and we ended up with 2 kids, a white picket fence and a dog name Chip. This was just a crush. Like how you crush on a celebrity even though the possibility is slim to none of even getting a chance. In recent times crushes on teachers has progressed into more than dreaming about having a life with them.

I need to know, why is it that most of these teachers (females) are married with kids? Is there something I am missing? You have a family and you take a chance to lose all of that and get jail time for a minor. I am not saying that it would be more understandable if they were single, I’m saying they have more to lose. There’s more embarrassment to spread around. It’s not just you that will have to deal with your bad judgment. It’s your children and your spouse. Let me say this though if there is ever anything that will kill a man’s pride that (sleeping with a minor) is at the top of the list. And we can’t forget the boys and their families. It’s just bad all around.

I am really trying to wrap my mind around this. What starts it? Who initiates it? In your their minds is it worth it? Can there really be a justification to it? There are so many questions to be answered. I have researched this matter because it came up in a conversation me and my best friend had. When I was reading the different stories there were actually more women offenders than men. Which is odd to me because I thought society pegged men as the official sex offenders. Even though any sex offender is horrible. Women that does it often makes me wonder. As I said earlier these women 9 times out of 10 has kids, do they think what if this were my kid. What if something like this was being done to my child? Does it ever click in their brains that there’s a mother just like them that is going to be angry, sad , and disappointed that a teacher has failed their child in a way they can’t imagine.

Having children has giving my another perspective on a lot of things in my life. Kids are suppose to do that. So when I hear about sex scandals in schools it really makes me upset. There should never be a moment as a mom you can violate somebody else’s child. PERIOD! With that being said I hope they really start doing psychological test for teachers because it has to be something wrong with these teachers.

Oh FuZz! 1000 Word Pic.

The wind echoes around my mountains

Their is a stillness in my soul

My hear beats, My mind runs

There’s stories to be told

The water from my tears has gather together

While creating a puddle at my feet

My heart pounds, My mind runs

There’s no run for defeat

The clouds are bright in my face

Having me aware, Now I see

My heart is still My minds in shock

There’s is sometimes pain in beauty

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Quote Of the Day

Have you ever been in love? I would guess about 90% has probably really said and/or felt the “L” word. There’s a difference between saying you love and actually being in love. Love is a tricky feeling. It starts off so magical. The feeling is surreal. You give your all and sometimes things change. That magic is far and few in between. You start to notice things that really bother you but you still continue to love. You still give your all in efforts to get the same in return. When I first seen this quote I was like “Hell Yeah! I am owed love” I had to read it over a couple of times to really get the meaning. I had not be bias for what I am going through and open my mind to what @daeizm was really saying. I had to let go of my anger and get deep down into the truth.

Truth is a lot of us, as normal human beings, want what we give out (especially if its something good).  We feel as though this is the way it should be but reality is this not how it is. When it comes to love there should never be a reward expected. If its true, you should just love and that’s it. Not looking for a gain of anything. I struggle with this. Only because that’s all I have to genuinely give. I constantly tell my Ex that he doesn’t love me because I feel as though I am not getting what I am owed. But what can really be a reward? You say all I want is this for this, but its funny cause if it was pure that’s not what it would be. I can say sometimes we don’t even realize what we are doing expecting something for the love we are giving out. It’s just becomes second nature.

I have to be honest and say I can’t say this is a human thing. I going to be blunt and say this is majority a female thing and I know because I am a female. We give out love expecting a relationship, gifts, or the ultimate thing marriage. I wouldn’t say just give out love all willy nilly. I wouldn’t advise you just love just anybody. I am saying when you love the right person love them for who they are, expect nothing and I am pretty sure you will get everything you ever dream. This is not because you emoted (portray an emotion in a theatrical manner)  “love” but because you actually loved wholeheartedly. You can see the difference. I see the difference as I write this post and think about all of my situations with my Ex. I loved him but I couldn’t get passed just loving him and that’s it. I need love in return and like @daeizm says love is not a loan.

Love Freely the way you want

But expect nothing to validate why you are giving it

Just Love!

Oh Fuzz! 1000 Word Pic

Bare branches bound by beauty

Standing silently

Bare branches bound by beauty

Swaying Solemnly

Bare branches bound by beauty

Secretly Singing

Bare branches bound by beauty

Teach me the way of life

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Oh FuZz! 1000 Word Pic

If these walls could talk

What stories would it tell?

How would they express their selves?

What words would they yell?

 

If these wall could talk

Would you like what you hear?

Closed up, just you and your 4 walls

Is it something you can bare?

 

If these walls could talk

Can you handle the truth?

Oozing out the ghost stories of long before

Would you think it’s a spoof?

 

If these wall could talk

I would stay and listen

Cause even walls have pains too.

 

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Quote of the Day

How many times does things become too much to bare or deal with? The moments where everything seems to go wrong at the wrong time. It makes you question the reason why you continue to even do it. When I say “it”, it can be anything. It can be life. It can be getting use to being a new mom. It can be starting a new business. It can be ANYTHING.

The one thing I always try to remember is without challenges or obstacles the progression you seek will be all in vain. I say this because how is that going to make you greater, getting everything you want with out the work?  If that happens you will always think things come easy. Sometimes you have to stop and reflect on all the things you did right. See where you came from. Embrace the changes you went through. Acknowledge how much you pushed your self. Then tell you self there is more to come.

I currently on a job search in which I feel that there is no avail. I have looked everywhere to do anything and still got nothing. On a daily basis I get in this funk because I feel like I should be working and doing working girl things. Sometimes the day is so bad. For example, It was one day I applied to like literally 15 jobs. I put my resume out there and got about 3 maybe 4 responses back. I was excited and felt good . I was like one of these interviews I am going to come out with something. I  prepped myself that week. I felt good. I did my interviews and I didn’t get not one job. I was do disappointed. I didn’t know what I was doing wrong. I was ready to give up when somebody I know showed me that I started out getting no interviews to getting 3 or 4 of them. So I thought about what he said and he was right. I put work into fixing my resume, adding and taking out things that might help it look better. I created a lot job specific cover letters and all. I did a lot of work and I was not about to let that work fall below the waist side.

So I tell you that story to say this. Sometimes we don’t know how close we are to the thing we have been working so hard to get. Don’t give up just stop, give your self a pat on your back for making it this far, and keep working.

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Mommy Woezz

Being a mom is the coolest thing I grown to love. When I was young people tend to put in my head when you have kids your life is practically over. There is no fun or all you have in life is being a mom. That goes for dads too, but I feel like its mostly goes for us moms. We carry much of the weight and tend to become overwhelmed. Don’t feel bad you are not alone!

Some days I feel like I can take over the world. I have all these ideas of what I could, would or should be doing. Then there are days where I lay in my bed and it sucks. There’s a baby crying every hour, another kid asking a million questions and a daughter with an attitude of a teenager and she hasn’t even hit her preteens yet. I yell in my mind “SOMEBODY SAVE ME” a minimum of 50 times a week. Some weeks I have said it some much it just becomes normal to think when its not even nothing going on to justify it. But I wouldn’t trade my little ones for anything but sleep lol. Just kidding!

Moms all over the world have their woes and I reassure you once again you are not alone. From the weight gain you can’t get off to the lack of sleep, we as moms tend to be hard on ourselves and each other. Being that this is my first post for mommy woes I will say I will tackle everything from depression all the way to should you or should u not spank your children.

Little Known Fact: a Kid is a baby goat. I remember a friend of mine told me she no longer says Kid or Kids referring to her children cause her children are not goats. I don’t know at first I was all like ok I can totally understand where she was coming from but now a days I just look at it like its just another word for goat and children. What do you think?

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Daily OFNS (NYC)

Earlier we celebrated the first day of summer with free things to do with your kids in NYC. Now its time for the Daily News round up.

This week we heard about the fatal stabbing of Timothy Crump, a 14 year old boy. Today the mom of the boy who did the stabbing Noel Estevez cries foul. The Daily News exclusively reported that Estevez’s mom , Maria, says that her son was tormented and bullied by the victim. Though Bulling has been at a all time high does it now make it acceptable for murder.

In the article Maria states that “It was kill or be killed”. What is the world come to? I feel for Timothy’s family, but I also feel for the Estevez family because there no winning in this situation. I do not know if any bullying was confirmed but I know that the effects of it usually ends with death. Whether its the bully pushing a person to suicide or it’s the person beieng bullied taking actions into his own hands. Either way we need to fight more to stop bullying period. There should be no more parents losing their kids to the grave or a jail cell.

Life and Timezz

HAPPY FIRST DAY OF SUMMER! We had a long winter. Longer than I hoped it would be but I won’t complain cause this heat is kicking my butt and its only the first day. I am literally sitting in front of the fan singing my favorite songs. Yes I do that! I like to hear my alto voice with a raspy fan untone. DON”T Judge me. Besides my vocals I managed to continue blogging. YAyyy!!!

  Today I took it easy. Played with my kids and listened to music. I also started looking up things to do for the summer. Though there are a lot of things to actually do. There are also a lot of FREE things to get into. Just like most some  nobody else Free is my middle name. And I love all thing Pro Bono.

I decided that you deserve to try the free things that I will be getting into this summer. I am NYC based so this only goes for those in the NYC area.

First off let me tell you how much I love beaches. When I get some good money my goal is to have a nice place near a beach. Oceanviews and cool breezes. Lets all take a moment and envision that. Wait I think I need more than a moment. Here are the beaches you might catch me at.

Thanx to timeout.com and their article http://www.timeout.com/newyork/attractions/best-beaches I will live at these beaches when I’m not blogging or being a mommy. My favs are:

Jacob Riis Park Beach (Be careful of the Nude section)

Jones Beach

Rockaway Beach (They did a good job sprucing it up since Hurricane Sandy)

Not much of a zoo person but for the last 2 weeks my son has been begging me to take him to the zoo. What’s better than a zoo you can pay what you wish. I got the list of zoos and from mommypoppins.com so check it out. Here are the list of zoos, museums, and gardens to visit.

The Bronx Zoo – Pay what you wish Wednesdays for general admission. Total Experience activities cost extra.

Brooklyn Botanic Garden – Free all day on Tuesdays, and Saturdays from 10am-noon. Free on winter weekdays November-February.

Brooklyn Children’s Museum – Free the third Thursday of every month 4-7pm and the first full weekend of every month 2-5pm (except holidays).

Children’s Museum of the Arts – Pay what you wish Thursdays 4-6pm

Children’s Museum of Manhattan – Free the first Friday of every month 5-8pm

New York Aquarium – Pay what you wish on Fridays 3pm-closing

New York Botanical Garden – Free grounds admission all day on Wednesdays, and Saturdays 10-11am. Special exhibits cost extra.

New York Hall of Science – Free September through June on Fridays 2-5pm and Sundays 10-11am.

New York Historical Society – Pay what you wish Fridays 6-8pm

Queens Botanical Garden – Free Wednesdays 3-6pm and Sundays 4-6pm. .

Staten Island Zoo – Free Wednesdays 2-4:45pm

Wave Hill – Free all day on Tuesdays, Saturdays 9am-noon.

So there you have it. Cool things to do with your kids and not brake those pockets. Now I have to go make lunch cause supermoms make lunch and blog!

Quote of the Day

Lets talk relationships. Not just a boyfriend and girlfriend type of relationship, but all types. When you are hurt in order to be happy you must heal. People often want the person that hurt them to take that burden off their chest, but here’s the thing they don’t have to and most times they won’t. Your happiness starts and end with you.  Your healing depends on your will to be happy.

I’m going through this right now. I was in a situation where I thought I was going to come out of it better. It didn’t happen, go figure! I nagged and annoyed him to fix what he had broken. To amend the wrong he had committed but as hard as it is to admit it he didn’t have to. I’m not going to go as far to say he didn’t want to but he didn’t have to. I wanted NEEDED him to cause I was too afraid to take that journey alone. I never did and that was my problem. I always needed a passenger to heal my hurt. I always found somebody to repair the damage. I just never realized that doing that only gave a temporary fix to past hurt and developed new ones along the way. Leaving me worst off than where I started.

So maybe its not a boyfriend. Maybe its a parent that abandoned you or a friend that violated your trust. Maybe its a child that disappointed you or a love one that took advantage of your kindness. Doesn’t matter who it is you are responsible for your healing. You are in control of your greatness. Don’t depend on them to help you in the process. It would be nice. It would be something that can aide in it, but its a waste of time waiting on them when you have YOU.

Shout out to @alex_elle for the amazing quote. She has tons of them it was so hard to choose.

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